HAVING SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME

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To some people, the first time having sex is one of the most important moments of your life, there are different reasons for different people, cultures and beliefs. For some, it’s no big deal, it’s just a first time like any other first times. Personally, I believe that it doesn’t matter if you think it’s a special moment or not, you have the right to believe what you want. What matters to me,  is if you feel ready, comfortable and that you trust the person you’re doing it with. Age doesn’t really matter, some people are comfortable at a younger age than others, as long as you feel ready to do it then I don’t see what is wrong. I honestly don’t think that anyone can decide when or who to lose it to but yourself.

In the media, a lot of the time, loosing your virginity is seen as a very special moment; I’m talking about rose petals, candles, fireworks and the perfect lover. But after talking to some of people about it, I soon found out that it doesn’t always goes as planned and it doesn’t always feel great.

Just a little reminder, do it if you feel ready and especially don’t do it if you feel obligated to do it or just to please the other person.

Im kinda sad that i know some of people still think that women can get pregnant just by they do a blow job or just by kissing and they dont even know how to deal with it. Well, im here not forcing you guys to do sex at the young age but im here just to show ypu some reasons why we shouldnt get afraid of loosing virginity because anyway we will loose it sooner or later.

As i said at the first time, these all is about belief and cultures because everyone is different with each other. And the reason why i wrote this kind of article because i think Indonesian teenagers dont get enough sex education at school, they have no enough couragement to talk with their parents about sexual things and some of them are not allowed to speak about it.

Youth aged 13 to 24 accounted for more than 1 in 5 new HIV diagnoses in 2014, (source). Let’s all help to prevent STD’s and please please stay protected. You have to realise that things do happen and it can happen to anyone, you have to realise that you can get Aids after the 100th time you have sex or the first time having it. There is nothing cool about having unprotected sex and NEVER FEEL OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE !!!

Most of you have probably learned this in school but just in case, here are ways to have sex safely :) :

-Use goddamn condom. You guys have lots of various taste and even more you have glow-in-the-dark one

-For ladies, take birth control pills. REMEMBER THE PILLS DO NOT PROTECT YOU FROM STD’S SO YOU CAN BE NOT PREGNANT BUT STILL HAVE HERPES AND IT AIN’T PRETTY.

-Use lubricant, because friction heightens the risk of infections and can also cause broken condoms.

-Get tested regularly (because it’s simply better to be safe than sorry).

-Communicate with your partner.

Lastly, thank you so much for reading and remember have sex whenever you want to and whenever you feel safe and comfortable. STAY FUCKING PROTECTED.

With love,

Angelita